It has been a year of odd memories. At the end of
August, I made one of those Planes, Trains, and Automobiles types of trips from
Tennessee to Michigan. I wrote about it in “Murphy's
Law and a Malicious GPS” and then a few weeks later suffered through knee
surgery which I wrote about in “For
the Love of Surgery.” Then my school year started and my father-in-law
wandered off, starting six days of desperate searching and a resulting funeral.
I wrote about my wife’s father in “Darwin
J. Smith.” As things began to settle down, a deer committed suicide with my
wife’s car and the day she got her vehicle back from repairs, she hit the front
end of an idiot’s car with her stationary vehicle. My wife was going 0, the
idiot about 60. Just a few days later, I got in the swing of things by denting
in my daughter’s passenger-side door with the back end of my own moving
vehicle. I mentioned the “incidents” in “Disaster
Zone Ahead.” I thought my year of fun was over, and then we had an ice
storm in Michigan and we lost our power—over Christmas!
With the passing of my father-in-law and my
mother-in-law housed in a care facility with Alzheimer’s, my wife threw herself
into Christmas preparations. I always had nice, family Christmases as a
youngster, but the holiday with the Smith family was like Christmas times ten—maybe
twenty. I’m fairly certain Jennifer was afraid that Christmas without her
parents was going to be sad, so she was determined to honor the traditions with
her best Christmas spirit. Well….
Christmas lights can’t be lit up without power.
The Christmas tree can’t be lit up without electricity. Christmas carols can’t play
on the stereo without energy. It’s difficult to wrap presents using an iPhone
flashlight. We traditionally opened stocking stuffers on Christmas Eve and
followed lots of traditions. The dip in the hot tub where we sang Christmas
carols was out—the hot tub temperature was gradually receding from hot to frigid. The steaks broiled in the oven for our traditional meal became KFC. We
took the generous financial gift that my parents had given us as a Christmas
present, and instead of a new TV we were considering, we purchased a
gas-powered generator so we could have enough heat in our house to keep the
pipes from freezing. We didn’t have running water, so I bailed the chilly water
from the hot tub to pour into the toilet tanks, and we brushed our teeth and
washed our faces with bottled water. We ate our chicken and mashed potatoes,
bundled up in my bedroom, watching our traditional Christmas movie. Our plan to
have Jennifer’s family over to our house on Christmas Day was cancelled and
plans were changed to go to her brother’s because their power had been
restored.
On Christmas morning, I awoke and made my trek to
get more gas for the generator. We redirected extension cords so we could play
our traditional Christmas music. After unwrapping gifts, we forsook the
traditional breakfast cinnamon rolls because there was no oven, and we gathered
our things to go shower at my brother’s house. At my brother-in-law’s house, we
ate and prepared to open gifts, and just as we gathered for our first family
Christmas without Jennifer’s parents, their power went out again. We unwrapped
presents by candlelight and phone flashlights. Christmas wasn’t the same. It
wasn’t convenient. It wasn’t traditional. It wasn’t what it usually was. But it
was amazing.
Yes, gifts are awesome, and good food is
appreciated. The comforts of home and the traditions of Christmas—too numerous
to elaborate upon—are part of what makes Christmas special. But what makes
Christmas truly special is the birth
of Jesus. On Christmas Eve, because we didn’t have opportunity to celebrate how
we usually do, we went to church. We sang Christmas carols and listened to our
pastor talk about Jesus’s birth—the Christ of Christmas. We read the
Christmas stories from the Bible
together on Christmas morning. We thanked God for our meals. We gathered with
family in the dark and were able to enjoy the experience without dwelling on the
death of my father-in-law.
Christmas wasn’t the same. It was lacking in so
many ways, but it allowed my family to focus on the right things. It allowed us
to not be so caught up in the traditions that would have likely been a bit sad
this year, and focus on our family and on the many blessings we often overlook—like
heat and water and light. It helped us to ignore the hustle and bustle and not
focus on the amenities of Christmas but rather on the reason for the special
day. It allowed us to not be sad but rather to be grateful. I’ve had a lot of experiences
this year that I’ll always remember, but the Christmas without power might have
been the most memorable of all.
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